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REVEREND SUN MYUNG MOON
SPEAKS ON
THE DAY OF ALL THINGS - 1982
June 21, 1982
Belvedere
Translator - Bo Hi Pak
Can anyone make a good guess at my topic this morning? You are
right, this is the Day of All Things, and that is the title of
my message this morning.
In the Unification Church we celebrate four major holidays each
year, and Day of All Things is one of them. As all of you know, we have
God's Day, Parents' Day, Children's Day, and the Day of All Things.
What other celebration day do we need? Everything is celebrated in
these four major holidays.
When we say Day of All Things, we include all things of creation,
without exception. Are people involved as well? Certainly. First of
all, let us think about the reason for creation. Why did God create all
things? Why did He create human beings? The answer is very simple: God
created all things for the sake of mankind.
God also created all things after the image of mankind. As a tree
breathes through its leaves, we breathe through our lungs. The tree
trunk is like our heart, and its roots like our stomach. Human beings
are part of the animal kingdom, but in whose image are we created? The
obvious answer is in the image of God.
Then whom does God resemble? Within God there is the image of
mankind, animals, plants, and everything. Why did God create all these
things? You say for joy. That is correct, but whose joy are we talking
about? Joy must belong to someone. The purpose of creation is God's
joy, of course, but in order to insure and fulfill God's joy, mankind
and all things need to achieve abundant joy.
There are all kinds of joy: joy in which God can take delight, joy
in which mankind can take delight, and joy in which all things can take
delight. Joy is created by the action of give and take between subject
and object, producing harmony and fellowship.
Whose joy should come first? Is God the first one to feel joy?
Where should joy start? You answer that it begins with God, but how can
God feel delight alone, without somebody else? Mankind is created to be
God's object, but even joy in the human realm is not simple, because
there are men and women. A solitary individual cannot feel joy; people
have to enter into a relationship in order to experience joy.
Furthermore, a couple's experience of joy will be different if their
environment is barren, such as a desert or outer space, than if they
are surrounded by the beauty of creation.
When we talk about man and woman, love immediately comes to mind.
But think about Adam and Eve: were they created in an instant? Did
they suddenly experience love? Can love be savored in a moment?
According to the Principle, everything passes through a growth period
in order to reach perfection. Did God create Adam and Eve as adults or
as infants? As babies, were they able to shout out, "I am in love," or
did they merely coo and smile? Well, nobody can be sure, because we
weren't there in the Garden of Eden! But it is logical that God created
them as babies, in the formation stage, with the destiny to grow into
perfection.
So there were two babies, Adam and Eve. Imagine them growing day by
day and learning to walk. However, even Adam and Eve could not
experience total joy by themselves; they needed support, an appropriate
environment, things to touch, look at, and enjoy.
Suppose Belvedere were the Garden of Eden, and Adam and Eve were
created right here on the grounds. What would they enjoy? Very likely
the trees; they would touch them, run around them, look at their
blossoms, etc. The trees would give Adam and Eve a lot of things to
talk about. For example, Adam, being a boy, would probably claim all
the big trees for himself and Eve would reply, "Well, you can have
them, but all the cute little trees are mine" But perhaps Adam became
greedy and wanted all the trees for himself! Then Eve might claim all
the grasses, plants and flowers. They might talk among themselves,
arguing and joking about the things of nature. What if one day Adam got
a little nasty and told Eve, "All the trees-pine trees and oak trees,
big trees and small trees-are mine; how can you enjoy the grass when it
is so dirty?" And Eve might reply, "I have something even beyond your
trees: all the birds flying over the treetops are mine!"
What I am trying to describe is that in order to enjoy life, people
need some surroundings, the beauty of nature. Adam, being a little
greedy and thinking on a large scale, would claim all the big things
and love them, while Eve would be attracted to the tiny things, finding
them so cute and fascinating. She might say to Adam, "You don't have
any pretty little things, do you?" and Adam would reply, "Where are
your pretty little things? Show them to me" Then Eve would point and
say: "Look at this ant, this little black dot,' and Adam would have to
agree that nothing like that ant existed among his big things and admit
that the ant is a very wonderful creature. So the ant would bring
dignity to Eve.
Then one morning Adam might abruptly announce, "Among all the
birds, the mighty eagle is mine" Eve might reply, "Your eagle may be
large, strong and swift, but I'll take the swallow; it is also fast,
but more than that, it is beautiful" This bird is a symbol of
femininity and beauty. It is a unique bird; it seeks fellowship with
people, arriving each spring with a beautiful song and building its
nest in people's houses. This bird's appearance brightens the entire
house; it's almost like being visited by a beauty queen!
Adam would marvel at the power, dignity, and masculinity of the
eagle, but Eve would point out that even though it looks so vigilant
and powerful, it lacks the qualities of love, beauty, peace, and
femininity. She wouldn't like the eagle as much.
So the behavior of the two children, Adam and Eve, would be
different. Adam would be very masculine and impetuous, always running
around doing wild things, while Eve would be very feminine, charming,
kind and tender. While Adam would be out racing with the deer, Eve
would lie down against a big rock and play with some little flowers!
So far, I have been describing how all things were created for men
and women to enjoy. Through their give and take with nature, Adam and
Eve must have found much stimulation for their thoughts, conversation
and, ultimately, joy. These examples can help you visualize the purpose
for the creation of all things.
Think about how women's clothes are designed. You don't find images
of eagles, tigers, snakes or lions on women's fabrics. Rather there are
flowers, grasses and tiny trees. You women pick such patterns because
your mind is drawn to such things; something within you resonates with
the flowers, grasses and trees. Men's jackets, in contrast, tend to
have eagles, tigers, lions, etc. They fit more with men's character.
Suppose for a moment that all things of creation were taken away
from you. How desolate the world would be! Furthermore, we need to eat
in order to sustain life; our food and our nourishment comes from the
things of creation.
Then why did God create all things? To be the environment for Adam
and Eve. Creation was to give Adam and Eve joy, fulfillment, and
nourishment.
All things of creation also exist in pair systems, in subject-
object relationships. Every kind of animal, large or small, has a pair
system, a male and female aspect. An incredible world exists just in
the little piece of ground you are sitting on! No matter how small a
creature may be, you will find male and female creating a beautiful
family in their little piece of grass-mommy bug, daddy bug, elder son
bug, younger son bug, etc. So when Adam and Eve saw that even bugs
create families, they probably wanted to create a family too, just like
the insects.
Did Adam and Eve suddenly discover that love is to be expressed by
kissing and then start kissing each other, or was their discovery
stimulated by the things of nature? What do you think: did they learn
it or invent it? I say that they observed the animals, that nature was
their teacher.
Watching nature, Adam found out that sometimes the male goes first
and the female follows him, and other times the female goes first and
the male follows her. But wherever they looked, they found that male
and female somehow cooperate. When the male finds good food, he signals
the female to join in the meal. Did Adam and Eve invent the signals
they used for each other, or did they learn them from other creatures?
Each morning, birds call out to one another; the male bird sings and
the female responds in harmony.
Actually, Adam and Eve learned from nature; nature was their best
teacher. They might not have had a house like Belvedere, for instance,
but they must have had some small cave or cabin. During the day, did
Adam and Eve just lie around, bored to death, or were they busy and
active? They had not a moment to be bored; there was so much to look
at and explore: birds, rivers, fish, rocks, mountains, fruits, flowers,
etc. Suppose they came upon a frog. What an odd creature a frog is!
When they tried to catch it, the frog immediately jumped into the
water. "Boy!" Adam thought, "I should learn some jumping too"
I want you to understand that God gave Adam and Eve a textbook to
learn from and that textbook was nature and all its creatures. All
things were created to be a manual from which Adam and Eve could
learn. But today many people forget the benefits of learning from
nature. They don't care about trees and plant life; they get bored to
death! They aren't concerned about their neighbors; they just stay in
their house.
For lovers, even something as little as a handkerchief means a
great deal. Suppose a man leaving to fight in a war gives a
handkerchief to his wife. If the man was killed in action, that
handkerchief becomes a memento treasured by his wife for a lifetime.
That handkerchief might have cost less than a dollar, but when it is
transformed into a symbol of love, its value is priceless.
Who is the king of love in this world today? You know the answer.
God is the King of love. The King of love wanted to express His love to
His sons and daughters. In order to do that, as a gift to His children,
He created all things. Think about it in this way: God is the one great
King of love in this universe.
On the other hand, after a President of the United States has
served for four or eight years, he settles down and creates a museum or
library. His desk, his pen set, the documents he signed, etc., are
placed on display. That happens Just because he was President of the
United States for four years. What do you think is more precious: all
the displays in a presidential museum, or a simple little flower
created by the King of love? Can one of God's tiny masterpieces be less
significant than a suit worn by the President of the United States?
Today I want you to really feel that the Love-King of the universe
gave His children the creation as a gift. Each leaf, each rock, each
blade of grass, each detail of creation is priceless and of far greater
worth than any museum display on earth. All people today are living in
God's museum- nature. Look around you: you are in God's museum!
Museums are generally filled with antiquities, but this is a living
museum, a living treasure in which we can enjoy freedom, love and joy.
What is the most priceless object you can think of on display here
in America? The "Mayflower"? The "Mona Lisa"? God's masterpiece, a
tiny blade of grass, is far more intricate and beautiful. One is dead,
the other living. Which is more valuable? Whose hand is behind the
crafting of this tiny blade of grass? The President of the United
States? No, the King of kings, the Love of loves. So to behold a
masterpiece, don't just visit a museum and see dead items. Of course,
there is value in going to museums, no question about it, but you
should also go to a park, where works of far greater value are
displayed. Walk down its lanes and listen to the birds chirping on all
sides; look at the trees, the bushes, the flowers.
God created all things for the sake of Adam and Eve. Flowers could
be their jewels, leaves could be their spoons, etc. Today we are
touching the same things of nature that Adam and Eve touched in the
Garden of Eden: the same grass, same flowers, same trees. If I asked
the flowers whether they saw Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, they
would reply, "No, I don't go back that far, but at least my
great-great-great-great-grandfather did, and I am connected to them in
that way; there is a giant line linking us all the way back to Adam and
Eve" And if I ask the flowers what Adam and Eve said to them, they
would reply, "They told us we were so beautiful!" So even this very
flower is part of Adam and Eve's legacy to us.
Since all things were created before people, they know how God
touched them. They can say, "I felt how God formed me. Here He pushed
me very strongly, there He was very tender, etc." They can share their
experiences with us. The flowers can add, "When the Creator made me, He
was whispering to Himself He didn't know I was listening, but I heard
Him say, 'Boy, I am going to make you a very special flower!' "
Actually, the things of creation have more to be proud of than we do,
because they came into being before us. In a way, they are our elder
brothers.
The important thing is the heart which created those first flowers
in the Garden of Eden for Adam and Eve. That same unchanging heart has
been handed down, throughout the generations, to us today.
Suppose you were God, and today you are about to create all
things. Many of you are thinking about the upcoming holy wedding
ceremony. You are wondering what to give your fiancé to make
him or her happy. Imagine yourself in God's position, with the power to
create a few things for your beloved. What would you make? How many
days would it take you to create a flower like this one in my hand?
Even to paint it on canvas would not be easy. With the limitations some
of you have, it might take ten years! Even if you were an expert
artist, you could never paint a flower and give it life. What a pitiful
fiancé you are! How helpless you are!
If you had the power to create a living flower, wouldn't it be
great to go to your fiancé and say, "Look, this is just for
you! I created this flower from scratch" Although you are incapable of
creating even one tiny flower, you have been given a whole world of
flowers for free-masterpieces of art handed to you as a gift. Mankind
has received such incredible gifts, but how many people are aware of
them and offer their gratitude to God from the depths of their heart?
How many people truly thank God for His bountiful gifts?
Suppose you spent ten years creating a living flower-a real flower
and proudly offered it to your fiancé.-If he or she said, "Oh,
that's ugly. I don't want it; go away,' how deeply hurt you would
feel! You hoped he or she would receive the flower with great joy and
appreciation-perhaps even dance around for months and months telling
everybody, "My beloved fiancé created this flower for me!" You
would want him or her to feel joy not just for one day, but for months
and even years.
How pitiful modern people are! God has given us such incredible,
priceless blessings, and hardly anyone even appreciates them. People
are blinded and engulfed in their human problems. Sometimes very
trivial matters cloud their vision of God's great gifts. Nature looks
down on them and says, "What a paltry life you are leading!" People
consider committing suicide, and some even do so, never able to
comprehend the value of the favors they have received. Nature feels so
sad when it sees how dark and clogged up people's minds have become.
The Creator who made all these things for His children invested
them with incredible, infinite value. He poured His whole heart into
His gifts. But the recipients-you and me, men and women of this
world-took them with disdain, seeing no value in them. Instead, people
have been mistreating the world and leading such miserable lives. When
the things of creation look down on the human race, they feel no
enthusiasm; they can only sigh with sorrow. The things of nature
realize their worth, because they know how much value God invested in
them. But looking at the human world, they realize that nobody
appreciates even the surface of nature. Neglected by people, the things
of creation are unable to return to God, their Creator. As a result,
creation grieves, feeling sorry for God and pity for human beings.
Today the Unification Church alone observes the Day of All Things.
We want to wake up, return to the original human condition, and become
truly able to cherish God's masterpiece of creation. This is the
meaning and purpose of the Day of All Things.
When you lie down on the grass without any blanket, you can tell
yourself, "I am lying on God's blanket, in His special bedroom, adorned
with His handiwork" Isn't God's green carpet more precious than any
man-made blanket? Which would you prefer to sleep on?
Once the Unification world becomes a reality, nobody will want to
live in high-rise apartments; they will want to go back to nature,
resting on God's green carpet, climbing the mountains, exploring the
rivers, etc.
Animals, far more than people, recognize the original value of all
things. Animals live in nature as their home. When you think this way,
nature will become very intimate with you; it will become closer than
your own jacket or clothes.
Man-made noise is so disturbing; the sound of airplanes flying
overhead is annoying. But if you become absolutely quiet and listen to
nature's music, you can hear singing going on even right now. This is
truly the most beautiful, original music. God's living masterpieces,
the birds, are singing. Can anybody create that kind of music? If you
sold the entire United States of America, you could not raise enough
money to buy such music. Can you listen to nature's music with an angry
face? You automatically find yourself relaxing and responding with
joy.
When you roam the valleys, climb the mountains, and enjoy the tiny
flowers, plants and animals, will God accuse you of wasting time and
tell you to get back to work? No, I am sure He would be happy to see
you appreciate His handiwork and say, "Bravo! I am proud of you."
Each tree has its own history. One tree might tell you, "My
ancestor was in the Garden of Eden, and one night Adam and Eve climbed
up in its branches and slept there" We must become men and women who
can value God's living museum better than any man-made museum. If you
express such appreciation, won't heaven be your ultimate destiny?
You should wake up each morning with this heart of gratitude. Look
around at nature and open up your spiritual eyes; you will see all
nature bowing down to you, greeting you and pleading with you to caress
it. It will invite you, just like a little puppy begging its master to
pet it. Trees, flowers, and all plants long to be touched by their true
masters. People who can appreciate this true museum as a gift from God
are close to perfection. Such people are entitled to receive God's love
and God's bounty. Can you feel what I am talking about?
Some people might wonder why the omnipotent and almighty God
created poisonous snakes. They think the world could do without them.
Furthermore, rose bushes have lots of thorns, and when you go to cut
the blossoms, you may get pricked by the thorns. So you wonder why God
created roses with thorns. Actually, thorns are necessary to educate
people. If the roses had no protection, people would try to ruin them,
and some greedy person would pick them all. But since the bush has
thorns, only appreciative hands can take the flowers. Roses have sweet
fragrance as well as thorns; the two come together. Whenever there is
something precious, God creates some security devices to protect it!
God thought, about everything.
Then what about the snakes? Poisonous snakes love sunny spots, just
the kind of place where everybody would like to go for a nap. The
poisonous snake says, "Well, I we! here first; when you come here to
take a nap, you have to be careful. You should be very courteous and
humble when you ask me to relinquish the spot!" Snakes dwell in place.
favored by somewhat wild people-like the settings of some' Western
movies! But since snakes may be around, the people there have to be a
little more decent and careful; they have to appreciate things more. So
even the snake is needed, isn't it?
Too much indolence is not good. When people find a spot with good
water, they should be careful because there might be a snake nearby.
So is the snake God's mistake, or is it acceptable as part of God's
creation?
From another point of view, it has been discovered that the venom
of some snakes can be used as a curative. When venom enters your
bloodstream, it endangers you and may kill you; but taken through the
digestive system, it can become an incredible cure-all! In the Orient,
snake poison is a very precious medicine. People catch poisonous
snakes, extract the venom, and put it in a kind of liquor; it can be
preserved for several years and used as a strong curative drink.
So all creation has a purpose and reason for existence. The overall
reason is that God created the world for men and women to enjoy. Look
around in all four directions. Look at the trees, plants, river, sun.
For whom was the sun created? For you and me. What about the moon? God
created it for you and me. When you say "me,' don't just think of
yourself, but think about God who created the sun and moon for all
things of creation; think about God who created the mountains, rivers
and plants for Adam and Eve. That "me" is the center of all creation.
All the gifts of the universe are given to "me" You are the recipient
of all this bounty, but what a pity if the recipient doesn't care about
accepting it, doesn't even look at it, and spends all his time
preoccupied with trivial affairs! You should open your arms wide like a
receiver. Practice it. You are about to welcome the entire universe
between your arms. Say, "Thank you, Father" Doesn't it feel good? Just
to think about it makes you feel good, but when it truly happens to
you, how much more joy will you feel!
Therefore I really love nature. The birds are my dear, good
friends. I have pursued birds for many, many miles. Sometimes when a
very friendly bird which has been singing to you every day flies away,
you feel even sadder than when your parents leave, because your parents
don't sing for you every morning like the bird does!
Look at a butterfly visiting one flower after another. Feel like a
butterfly and join it in its tour. One time I got so caught up in that
feeling that I became exhausted. Then, Lying down on a flower bed, I
fell asleep and went immediately to the spirit world. In my dream, I
was flying like a butterfly or honeybee, and all the other butterflies
and honeybees were following me like a flock of birds. It was an
incredible scene. Looking at us, God smiled and laughed with great joy
and exclaimed, "My son, you really know what I have created!"
I have entered the spirit world many, many times. In this world,
tigers and lions are considered fierce animals and are feared as
killers. But in the spirit world, I could jump around among the lions
and tigers. If I hit a lion on its hip, it runs away. It isn't a
vicious or hostile animal at all! I have even ridden around on a lion's
back.
The Unification Church is sometimes thought of as a weird church,
because it has such an extraordinary leader like me who thinks of such
incredible things and proclaims them on the Day of All Things!
Right now I am middle-aged. I have become a little overweight, with
a big belly! But when I was young I was very slim. Often I was so
hungry that I felt the sides of my stomach sticking together. Those
were such hungry times, but I was so intoxicated in give and take with
nature that I forgot my hunger. And after exhilarating interaction with
nature, I fell asleep with a hungry stomach. Then in my dreams, angels
from God came with food, bread, Korean rice cakes, and even flower
cakes. They brought me the most beautiful flowers right from heaven.
What was more amazing was what the flower cake said to me: "Father,
please take me and put me in your mouth; I will be very delicious for
you. I will go to your stomach and work a lot of miracles for you.
Please eat me" All the food was urging me to eat it. Every little cake
was yelling and jumping up and down, begging to be eaten first. So I
ate them one after the other. Then when I woke up, I no longer felt
hungry. My stomach felt solid and full, and I was charged with
energy!
But I must stop talking here. This conversation could go on and on,
and all of you would be lifted up out of this world! I seldom talk
about these experiences, but today I have given you a little taste. Do
you want more?
According to the Bible, all things of creation are in deep grief,
but why? I want you to understand that all living things are truly
alive and that they have feelings. It is our mission as Unification
Church members to restore all things to their original position, so
they will be liberated from their groaning and travail. We must restore
them to their rightful position before God and man, so that they can
finally be enjoyed and valued. Originally there was no need to
fertilize plants; everything was-supposed to grow in a healthy way and
bear fruit. What nature needs is human love. Creation is waiting and
longing for your love. When people love nature, their love becomes the
fertilizer and nutrients plants need to grow. Your love is like an
injection of special energy that can boost a plant's vigor for two or
three years! This is the best food nature can receive. Nature is
waiting for love. Nature is thirsty for love.
What nature is looking for is loving people, people from whom it
can receive that kind of love. When you walk in nature with a heart
filled with love, you will never get hungry. When you have love, there
is plenty of food out there.
If you have been fundraising all day out of duty, you become
exhausted; but when you do it out of love, you never get tired. I know
that many of you have been fundraising to get ready for your wedding.
I know how tough that is! One's wedding can be a challenging
experience; you may be wondering how difficult it will be to spend your
entire life with your spouse. I understand that many people are
discouraged. But my advice is to do it with love; love will give you a
special injection of energy and keep you from getting tired or bored.
I look at everything with a sense of love. I see nature, trees, all
things, people, and even Bo Hi Pak with the eyes of love. I can look
at Bo Hi Pak's face for several hours every morning and never get
bored! Nature trained me how to love. When I look at things from the
angle of love, everything is exciting; nothing bores me. When I look at
a person with this kind of heart even before he speaks I know exactly
why he came, what his problems are, and what he will speak about. This
is not some special magic; it is the love of God. Love harmonizes
everything, love permeates everything, love embraces everything, love
imbues one with all knowledge and power.
What is the secret of my being able to match hundreds of couples
from around the world? Simply having a loving heart. Love is
everything, love has knowledge and power, love can penetrate and
understand everything, love endows one with a vision of the future.
Because I can match with such a heart I am the world's greatest
match-maker. Aren't you glad of that?
I have two different reputations. Some people say that I am an
excellent matchmaker and others call me a bad one. Those who call me a
bad matchmaker simply don't know the facts. After you have lived
together for three years, you will discover why I matched you and your
spouse, and you can come back and report to me!
Sunlight illuminates a person's surface, while x-rays allow one to
see the bones; x-rays penetrate the interior. I have not only sunlight
vision, but also x-ray vision! That's true. I can see much more than
just the surface of a person.
Look at what I am doing today on the worldwide level.
Extraordinary, gigantic things are going on. Sometimes they are
controversial. I can initiate such things because I can see into the
future. It doesn't matter what people may say now, I can see the end
result of activities. Ten years ago when I announced the foundation of
certain far-reaching programs, many people thought I was crazy. But
now, in hindsight, they realize how prophetic my words were and that my
decisions were correct.
Where did all these things begin? In the history of love. Love is
omnipotent and omnipresent. The most elementary force of all things is
love. Such insight helps you realize how precious each individual is.
Every one of you is so precious.
I have heard that some women wake up every day and curse their
face. "Why did my mouth have to be shaped like this? And why is my nose
so flat? Why didn't God make me different?" It's not good to hate
yourself like that. I want you to understand that your face is
essential to the universe. Without your particular face in its
particular configuration, the universe could not be perfected and
completed. Therefore, how beautiful you are!
Suppose some hole in the universe needs to be filled, but no one
could fit its exact shape. So God formed several faces which together
fill that hole. That is why your face looks Just the way it does. It
was made to match a particular space in the universe. Without you, that
space could not be filled. This is really true. The whole creation
needs to be perfected; every gap needs to be filled. So don't
complain. You are a unique segment of the creation! Even though you may
not find your face beautiful, it should help you love yourself even
more, because that means God specifically needed your unique face to
fill a certain hole! Do you follow me?
Suppose you were creating a piece of sculpture. Do you think it is
harder to make something beautiful, or something ugly? Actually it is
much harder to make something ugly and irregular. Of course, to make a
masterpiece of beauty is difficult, but it is even more challenging to
make a masterpiece of ugliness.
In a beautiful portrait, a rather drab background is needed to make
the face stand out. The combinations of light and shadow and many other
elements work together to accentuate beauty in a painting. Light
represents beauty and dark ugliness. Which is more beautiful: lifting
one leg or standing on both legs? You might say that a raised leg
represents beauty and the one on the floor ugliness, but you need both
in order to walk! Alternating right and left feet is normal when you
walk, but it is possible to walk in strange ways as well. Often when
you put your right foot forward, your left hand is extended, but you
could do that differently too. In dancing, partners alternate their
movements, so even dancing shows the harmony of beauty and ugliness.
How can you know someone is beautiful unless there is an ugly
person to compare him or her with? There is a saying that to look at
the face of a beautiful woman will bring bad luck that day. There is
another saying that a beautiful woman lacks blessings, because she had
to pay for her beauty with her blessings; she is poor in blessings,
because they were used up in her appearance!
We have been talking about appreciating the things of nature, but
what about our fellow human beings? Should we love them or disregard
them? You men can't pick out another man and say you will spend the
rest of your life just with him. You all need to research many
different kinds of people. If you analyze ten different types of
people, you can understand everyone in the world, because everyone fits
into one of ten or so different types. If you investigate deeply into
someone who has a certain kind of face, whenever you meet anybody with
the same type of face, you can predict his or her character with 80 to
90 percent accuracy. So think of other people as objects for character
research!
I have researched this person, Bo Hi Pak, very well; after studying
him and his wife I could predict how their children would turn out.
It's good to study other people and learn all you can about them.
Unless you can love nature, however, you will be unable to love
other people. Think about your spouse. You are going to live together
for eternity, so will every single day be a sweet, honeyed experience?
Some days you won't even want to look at your spouse's face! Don't you
suppose you might sometimes get bored with each other? Before you tire
of each other, however, you should learn to know his or her
characteristics well. For instance, you may realize that your wife has
a mouth like a machine gun; once it opens, it fires words like bullets
and nothing can stop it! But at the same time you recall that she has a
beautiful nose. So when she opens her mouth to shoot bullets, just
focus on her lovely nose and take comfort from it! Or if she has lovely
eyes, focus on them when you feel in danger of getting tired of her.
Some people consider fat persons totally unattractive. But heavier
women do have larger bosoms and broader curves in general. If your wife
is overweight, learn to appreciate those aspects of her. An additional
advantage of having a heavy spouse is that you can lie down and rest on
him or her; they are nice and soft when you need a pillow! So research
and discover the strong points of each other.
No matter how great a genius you may be, it still takes from three
to seven years to know another person well. You can look at his or her
eyes, nose, mouth and ears and compare them with those features in
other people. That in itself is an incredible research project. It's
also interesting toe compare the various ways people laugh. Each
individual has a unique style of laughing. Some people are unattractive
or even ugly when they aren't smiling, but as soon as they begin to
laugh they light up and look very special. I always match such a woman
to a man who can make her laugh a lot- someone who will tell her Jokes
from morning to night. Such a couple will be balanced and their home
will be happy.
Have you analyzed your fiancé this deeply? Do you really
know every little detail about him or her? Have you studied the way he
or she walks, the shape of the feet, hands, etc.? I can give you a
demonstration of a multitude of ways of walking! Your fiancé
should be the subjects of your research. Stupid men and women look at
only a small part of the body: the face. But the face is far from
everything. Actually, the neck is more important than the face! You
women admire a man's broad shoulders, don't you? And you men find
women's features very attractive!
Even a person's hands are important in everyday activities. Is it
better to laugh or to eat, for instance? You couldn't survive if you
spent your whole life only laughing. You need your hands to bring food
to your mouth, and later to help clean up the waste. So the hands
participate in both the best times and the worst times! Use your right
hand for the best times, and your left hand for the worst times.
No matter how good looking a man may be, with fine shoulders,
torso, etc., if his leg or foot is crippled, he is almost like a house
with a poor foundation. Some things aren't very noticeable, but I can
tell a lot about people Just by watching how they walk.
Some of you have already concluded that you cannot accept your
match, even though you have never lived together or even gotten to know
each other. You have even asked me for new matches, but I have said
that is ridiculous, since you don't even know each other. Sometimes I
have counseled engaged couples who have come to see me at East Garden.
"Did you know your fiancé had this or that characteristic?" I
ask them. Both have been completely surprised, because they haven't
gotten to know each other at all. They knew far less about each other
than I knew about them.
I am an expert on human beings, in a way, because I have dealt with
so many different people throughout my life. Many people have betrayed
me, and many have been completely loyal; some have exploited me. All
kinds of people have come and gone, and I have studied and researched
every one of them. My mind is very analytical, and I never let any
experience pass me by without observing it closely and learning from
it. I have considered millions of situations and human variables. So I
have millions of mental "index cards" that I can pull out and refer to
when I match people. I can see that someone with one kind of nature
will need a spouse with a particular characteristic. That is how I
match couples.
To make a long story short, let's say your fiancé turned out
to be a large, broad woman, and you immediately thought of her as
undesirable. But suppose she (or he) has an incredibly warm and wide
heart of pure love. Then what would you say? On the other hand, many
women with beautiful faces possess only a flat, shallow love. Through
my research I have learned that the love of an ugly woman is very round
and possesses great depth and nobility. It's easy to stand on net love,
while spherical love is harder to balance on, but which kind of love
would you prefer in your mate? Certainly, spherical love is better.
So if you think your fiancé is more attractive than you, you
ate most likely getting net love. But if he or she is uglier than you,
you are most likely getting spherical love. This rule of thumb applies
to both men and women. When you learn to love a fiancé whom you
previously disliked intensely, you will give birth to the greatest of
children.
There is a universal law that everything eventually evens out. One
generation may look very beautiful, while the next one is ugly. There
is a universal up and down motion that causes things to even out. If
you are in the upper range now, you can expect to go down.
Tall men are often attracted to short women, and thin men to heavy
women, and vice versa. Someone with big hands will seek a mate with
small hands. A big-nosed man married to a big-nosed woman might produce
a little Pinocchio! Some men with strong faces need a wife with a soft,
vulnerable, innocent face. I have analyzed all the different races and
nationalities, thinking which ones make the best combinations. Harmony
is the key factor.
Love is the basis and foundation for everything. You need to learn
to look at nature and the universe-as well as at each other-with the
eyes of love. You may ask your parents, "Dad, why did you choose
Mother? What is so good about her?" There must have been some reason
why they were attracted to each other.
What characteristic do you suppose Mother finds most attractive in
me? What would she consider my most unique, lovable point? I would
like to know what you think! I can well imagine, but I won't tell you,
because I cannot speak for her unless she is here.
But I know precisely what I like about Mother, from A to Z. Do you
think I have yet to appreciate all her good characteristics 100
percent? No, not yet. That means I have to continue doing research and
make more effort to understand and cherish her. Even by the time I die,
I don't think my research will be finished. Therefore, there is no
time to be bored, because so many things remain to be learned.
By the same token, there are many aspects of me that Mother still
has to learn about. She is always telling me, "Father, how do you find
so many different things to talk about? I thought you would have run
out of stories yesterday after speaking for seven hours, but here you
are giving another sermon!" She is constantly amazed at the depths of
my thought.
Mother has some standard by which she measures people. When she
looks for an ideal daughter-in-law or son-in-law, she looks at them
with those criteria. I also have certain standards that I use to select
a daughter-in-law or son-in-law.
No matter how ugly your fiancé may be, still he or she is
the supreme form of creation and therefore more special than anything
else in nature. He or she is the crowning glory of God's masterpieces
of creation. You may call upon the things of creation to sing a song
for you and they would be unable to comply, but your fiancé
could. So unless you are able to love nature, you cannot love other
people.
You may look at sparrows and think that each one has exactly the
same kind of eyes. But do you suppose the sparrows think that they all
have identical eyes? When a sparrow looks at a human being, it may
imagine that since they all have two eyes, one mouth and two ears, they
all look alike! Do you think a sparrow can distinguish between John and
Joe? People consider all sparrows are the same, and I'm sure sparrows
think all people are alike, but when you look at other people, does
everyone seem identical? When a flock of sparrows goes on a picnic, do
you suppose they can distinguish their mate from the others in the
group? I'm sure they can. What about their songs? To us, they all sound
identical, but I'm sure a female can distinguish her mate's voice. How
do you know this is the case? It is logical, for one thing, and we can
compare human and animal behavior. When birds hear humans sing, for
instance, they probably can't distinguish between Oriental and Western
voices!
There are great differences between the worlds of men and women.
Biologically, all men resemble each other, and all women resemble each
other. But beyond that, there are many incredible individual
differences. When you listen to your fiancé talk, you can tell
whether he or she is speaking out of worry, joy, depression, or
hope-just by the tone of voice. Do you research such things? Even
birds change their tones, so how much there must be to study in that
area! A scholar will always dig deeper and deeper into his field of
research; your field of research is your spouse.
A woman who considers herself very well-qualified, with lots of
talents and education, may look down on her husband as incapable and
very unlike her. But if she really focuses on studying him, she will
find incredible and unknown areas and discover truly superb things
about him. So you are in no position to judge another person too
quickly. Try writing a book about your husband; fill five diaries a
year with nothing but observations about him!
There are beautiful women here today, aren't there? Look at the
array of beautiful hair colors: black, brown, blonde, and so forth.
Some men who were hoping to marry a blonde woman might be disappointed
with a red-headed wife. But before you can say you are dissatisfied,
you have to study the history of red hair. Dig back a few centuries
into history and find out about all the incredible beauty that has come
from red hair. Furthermore, check out all the great philosophers,
artists and saints who had red hair. Then you can give your wife's hair
color a nickname: "The great scholar so-and-so's hair color" Thus you
can always associate her red hair with that of a great historical
figure.
There is a great variety in how people laugh. Some women show off
their whole mouth when they laugh, while others hardly open their
lips. You may not be able to study how people in the past laughed, but
you can study contemporary people and learn all about the varieties of
laughing faces. Then you can compare your discoveries with your wife.
You might discover that some famous person laughs exactly the way your
wife does. There must be some reason why he or she became famous!
You can study the many varieties of shapes of noses. You can
examine the eyebrows, the jaw, the forehead, the neck. Have you studied
all the aspects of your fiancé? If you only look at the outside
of a house, how can you call it bad without going inside? You would be
very foolish. Suppose a house looks bad both inside and out, but
somewhere inside is a secret safe containing a special treasure. Even
if the house is totally demolished, that special safe will provide you
with the means to live.
Actually everybody has a treasure, a special safe within them. I
have a special safe, just like each of you. You need to dig out that
value, that treasure place, and polish it, enhance it, cherish it, and
live forever in love. That is the beauty of marriage. Value is
something that always needs to be connected. The value of a man needs
to be connected with the value of a woman. Mankind's value needs to be
connected with the value of nature.
Today, on this Day of All Things, I am speaking about these things
because people haven't known anything about their universe, about
nature, about God's creation, about the spirit world, or even about
human beings. So our attitude should be to explore and love, love and
explore each other. Adam and Eve were schooled in the living museum of
nature; that was their great source of education.
In ten more days, a historical event will take place in New York.
This is an occasion of world-wide importance. You will be participants
in this incredible event. Do you think it will happen again and again?
Suppose I bless you on July I and then die on July 2. Then what would
happen? Don't you see the uniqueness of this opportunity? You must grab
it by any means possible, even if only by a stick or pole!
Participation in this historical event is in itself the greatest of
honors.
Just being admitted into Harvard is already a great honor, whether
you attend for four years, six years, or whatever. If you really think
of the value of the Blessing, it transcends imagination. Even if your
fiancé were like the Elephant Man or the ugliest, most disabled
woman, to walk down the aisle and be sprinkled with water by the True
Parents is a historical marriage.
You may have traveled the world looking for a loving woman, without
being able to find one. Suppose you are given a document by the King of
love, certifying that you are a master of love and that you have loved
all of creation and even the spirit world. Still, you would need to
find someone of the opposite sex with whom to relate. Without
consummating that kind of relationship, nothing is really fulfilled.
Your attitude should be: "July 1 is the day on which God will
finally give me the person through whom I can consummate my love" You
will be participating in an incredible, unique and holy opportunity.
You should be able to declare, "I have graduated in loving nature and
creation and in loving the entire spirit world. Now I have found the
person whom I can love for the rest of my life and throughout
eternity. Therefore, I am going to devote every ounce of my energy in
loving my mate"
July I should be your day of declaration and new beginning. On
that day, tell the world and the universe that you will love your mate
more than anybody you ever loved in your life. Then when you walk
through Madison Square Garden to the notes of the Wedding March you
will not look at your fiancé and think, "I wish his (or her)
face were a little bit better" How could you imagine such a thing?
Your spouse is better than anything in nature; your spouse far
surpasses the birds and trees. On that day, your love must be
unconditional. Everything you see in him or her should be beautiful to
your eyes. That is how you should begin as a couple.
During the period of growth, in late adolescence, everything in a
person's body and consciousness goes crazy. Teenagers are so
sensitive; they can laugh at everything, and the next moment it all
makes them cry. They can go crazy looking at someone's eyes, mouth,
ears, etc. They are unconditional, totally blinded by love. Love hits
them like a torpedo. With such an unconditional, focused love you
should embrace your spouse. Don't ever step back to wonder why you
ended up with this person.
The man is like a positive electrical pole and the woman like a
negative electrical pole. When they approach, sparks fly and
everything is connected and fulfilled. Don't you like that kind of
love? Electricity doesn't stop to evaluate things; when plus and
minus come near, sparks automatically fly. All electricity needs is
the wire.
The Unification Church has always been known as a gathering place
of unusual people. We don't need anything other than love. We are the
love race. Explosive men and women approach each other and melt
everything around them, burning up every foreign object and leaving
only the pure essence!
Have you ever listened to the sound doves make when they are in
love? They coo all night long. Do doves adore each other because of
how they look? Does the female say she likes her mate because he looks
so handsome? No, not at all. Love is precious in itself We are going
to become crazy for love itself!
Yesterday I spoke about first love and how it is most ideal for
marriage to take place in the teenage years. During those years, all a
man needs is a woman, and all a woman needs is a man. That
accomplishes everything. Are you that kind of love-crazy people?
Nature, too, is love-crazy. God created Adam and Eve for the
fulfillment of that very ideal, but it was never consummated. We are
in the position to complete it. From now on, let this be a time of
repentance. Whoever has a wishy-washy attitude about your
fiancé, please repent now, beginning today. Liquidate your
past and open a new diary of your relationship today. Base it on what
I spoke about today. You are bound to improve and eventually perfect
your relationship.
Today is the Day of All Things, the celebration of all the gifts
God prepared for mankind but which had no proper master to receive
them. Today we are pledging ourselves to become worthy recipients,
true Adams and Eves, so that we can deserve those gifts. We must
consummate the ideal which God intended us to reach. Nature and
mankind together long to accomplish the ideal for which God created
us.
We must fulfill the ideal standard of love. The love of Adam and
Eve should have set the standard of love for the entire universe.
They were the core, the center. But there has been a vacuum throughout
history. Therefore, we must set that standard today. You are the ones
to set that standard.
On July 1, you should meet that ideal standard and join with your
ideal mate. As we celebrate this Day of All Things in anticipation of
this historical Blessing, all nature can be deeply inspired and
rejoice with us. Those who want to pledge to consummate the true
standard of Adam and Eve's love on July 1, to become the flag bearers
of heaven and liberate the grief of all things, enabling them to
rejoice under their true masters-raise your hands. Amen!