ADVANCED DP WEBINAR
SESSION FOURTEEN
PRAYER
- practical and helpful tips (and clips)
Presented by Rev. Dr. Michael Hendrich,
Sr.
Transcribed by Airenae Culvy
https://www.facebook.com/300617987127985/videos/317770765694696/
Hi everyone. I'm
Michael Hentrich. I'd like
to talk a little bit today about prayer.
Now I know that prayer is a very
personal thing. It's very individual. And if you have ten people talking about prayer, you may
have ten different talks; and they're all going to be right and they're all
going to be very helpful and inspiring. And I
understand that. All I can do is share from my own spirituality with you and
hope that maybe some little nugget of something may be helpful to you.
My prayer life I would say has been
a good one and I just want to share from my own experience. That's
all I can do. That's all I can do.
Now to introduce this topic, I just
want to show you a little video clip here. One of them is from Constantine; you
might remember that clip. And the second one is from
Bruce Almighty. So let's go and watch those video
clips now and we'll talk about it when we get back.
Constantine Prayer
Scene:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xzutrCX10-c
That's a prayer: Bruce Almighty
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDWuFDWZ6-E
Bruce: Am I? ...
Almighty: You can't
kneel down in the middle of a highway and live to talk about it, son.
Bruce: But why? Why now?
Almighty: Bruce, you have a divine
spark. You have a gift for bringing joy and laughter to the world. I know. I
created you.
Bruce: Quit bragging.
Almighty: See, that's
what I'm talking about. That's the spark. (Hands him
something)
Bruce: What do you want me to do?
Almighty: I want you to pray, son.
Go ahead. I'm listening.
Bruce: 'Um ...Lord, feed the hungry
and bring peace to all of mankind.'' How's that?
Almighty: Great. If you want to be
Miss America. Now come on. What do you really care about?
Bruce: ......Grace.
Almighty: Grace. You want her back?
Bruce: No. I want her to be happy,
no matter what that means. I want her to find someone who will treat her with
all of the love that she deserved from me. I want her to meet someone who'll see her always as I do now through your eyes.
Almighty: Now that's
a prayer.
Bruce: Yeah?
Almighty: Yeah. It's
good.
Bruce and the Almighty: It's gud... ha ha
Almighty: I'm
going to get right on it. (and zaps him)
Bruce: Whooh
... That didn't feel very good.
Almighty: zaps him again.
and he wakes up with the meds zapping him alive ... end of
clips
Alright, how many of you could relate or identify with
Constantine's clip there? I'm sure many of us could. I
mean, prayer for many people if not most people is a pretty
mysterious thing, kinda strange. Is it real.
Come on. Am I just moving my lips and moving some air? Is anybody really
listening? Is God really out there? I mean, come on. I'm sure that's many people's experience.
But there are some people who feel something. There is some
response of some kind. And you know, we're going to talk more about what can
trigger that and make that happen a little later. But
I really feel akin there to the clip from Bruce Almighty when God said to him,
'Now what's really on your heart, son.' And he says
what's really on his heart and God says, 'I'm going to get to work on it.' I
resonate with that; but many people don't.
The point here is that prayer really
is strange. It really is unnatural. It's not what God
intended for human beings. We're not supposed to be
praying to God in a formal way. God designed us so that He could live in us and
among us so that we're communing with Him in our
spirit, in our heart.
He (God) really does love us; but
the problem is that, at the Fall of man, we have
become like autistic children. We can't even recognize
our own Parents. We don't hear Them. We don't see Them. We're just in our
own world. It's a really big problem. And prayer is an effort to reach out; but originally God
wanted to live in here.
Father said that when you go to the
spirit world and you call out to God, He will answer
you from within yourself. Well, we already have that Spirit. In fact, here's a quote from Father about this kind of thing. He
said:
"However high up God may be, if
you call out to Him with a heart of love, 'God!' the answer will come from
within your heart, 'What?' You then ask, 'God, where are You?'
and He will reply, 'What do you mean, where am I? I am at the core of your
heart.'" CSG, 1st ed,
p.638
Wow! But
people have a hard time with that because of the Fall. So,
we're very numb; and we have a problem. But God really
loves us. He really does exist and wants to have a relationship with us, a real
relationship with us.
But don't expect to hear a voice directly of God, God's Voice.
Ha, don't expect to hear God's Voice. I mean, you may
hear a voice if you become sensitive spiritually, but it's
not God's Voice. He doesn't have a mouth, a body or a
voice box; but He may speak to you through an angel, through a guardian angel,
through an ancestor, through a spirit person. He has His agents to reach you
with His message.
Even Heung Jin
Nim, I'm told, asked Father,
'Did God speak to you directly?' Father said, 'No.' He (Heung Jin Nim) didn't
say 'directly.' He said, 'Did you hear God's Voice?' Father said, 'No.' Well, I
just explained why. God does speak but it's an inner
voice, in here (mind) or in here (heart). You won't
hear something in your ears. You might hear it through your spiritual ears. And
it might be an agent of God; but .... Don't expect too much. But God
will, I know personally, communicate with you.
But that doesn't mean now that you should respond and listen to
every voice, feeling or inner thought that goes through your head. We're not saying that. That doesn't
mean, if you hear a voice saying, 'Go kill that person over there' that you
respond to that. No. If it's a neutral kind of thing,
it's not dangerous, it's not unPrincipled, it's not
bad or evil, then try it, respond to it, follow it and see if that inner voice
is correct. And if it's correct, try it again next
time of it's a safe thing to do.
And keep trying to follow that if it's okay, if it's nothing
bad or dangerous. And after a hundred times, you may
realize, 'Wow, this is not a coincidence here.' Somebody knows something and
seems to be leading me. They seem to be reliable and it's
working. So, this is the kind of way that it can work,
this inner kind of voice, inner kind of prompting.
Now Father did say that, if you feel
danger, move, go, run!
Respond to that always. Always respond to that.
Anyway, God is inside of you. And
another thing is that if we are going to train ourselves, cultivate ourselves
into a more sensitive person who might be able to experience that inner voice
(of God) even though you haven't been able to yet, then one important thing you
need to do ...(By the way, I'm just going to jump around in this lecture. It's not going to be a flowing thing in a systematic way. I'm just going to jump from point to point. And hopefully one of these nuggets might be helpful to you.)
If you want to cultivate your spirituality, find your place to pray.
You need to get into a good
environment that works for you. Everybody is different. Maybe for you it's nature. Maybe you want to go out in the woods. Maybe
you want to sit by a stream or a lake; or you have a favorite park bench to go to. Maybe it's a tree. Maybe it's when you're fishing. Maybe it's
in the shower. Maybe it's in the bathroom. Maybe it's in a closet. Maybe it's on a
busy crowded street. I don't know what works for you;
but whatever works for you, that's your prayer place. And
you need to seek that place out when you want to be with God.
Now another way that people get in
the right place to commune with God or get in tune, sort of speak, is meditation. Now, I've never been
a big investor in meditation, but if it works for you, I think it's great.
There may be two different kinds of meditation One kind of meditation is where
you empty yourself out, all your thoughts, your distractions and feelings, for
a peaceful state of being.
And if that's it (that's all you do) then I would call that a
Cain/type kind of meditation. But if you get to that point
and then on the basis of that you reach out to the real, Living God, Who wants
to commune with you, wants to love you, wants to speak with you, wants to hear
from you, wants to relate with you, on the basis of that zero kind of
meditation you got into, then I think that's an Abel-type meditation. That's great. I think that's
wonderful. That works. But I think we need to connect
with the real Living God, and not just stop within ourselves. That's what I'm trying to say.
Another thing that's
very important as you're trying to reach out and commune with the real Living
God is you need to listen. Listen. I would say one of the most important things
about prayer in my experience is to shut up and listen.
I know we have a
lot of things we want to express to God, frustrations, concerns, needs,
desires and whatever; but you know, the real Living God is pretty sharp. And He knows a lot of stuff; and He might have something
that He wants to share with you. Heh, heh, heh, ever think about it?
I had a graphic experience one time.
I was in a witnessing center in New York City. And,
thank God, I've always been a very healthy kind of person. I've
never really been sick and had a family doctor and stuff like that. And we were in two-person teams to go out on the street; and
one morning I got up and was really sick. I mean, it was really
unusual; and I told my partner, 'Well, you'd better go out by yourself;
because I'm not going anywhere today. I've got to get over this sickness that's
very unusual for me.'
So, I went upstairs to the brothers' bedroom dormitory and
crawled into a sleeping bag in a big walk-in closet. I laid down and after
about fifteen or twenty minutes this voice, this loud voice boomed out ... Now
I don't think it boomed out into my ears. I mean, it
could have been through an angel or a spirit person. It seemed like the voice
was familiar to me (because I've had so many of
these).
Anyway, it boomed
out and was loud to me, somehow it was loud. And this voice said, 'I don't need you to be a lone-ranger
type any more. I need you to be a big brother to the others, like a father
figure.' And I was so shocked. I was 'Whoh!' I was shocked. And I knew
it was true. I mean I had always been a lone-ranger type; so, I understood the
message and knew it was exactly what I needed to hear.
But it wasn't my nature at all. I know it wasn't
a figment of my imagination; and I didn't want to think that way. That was not
my nature. I didn't want to believe it; but I knew it
was true. And I have to say that from that time on
until today, I've tried to live up to that. I can never forget that message. So, I heard it. I received it; and after about twenty
minutes more of laying there in my sleeping bag, all
my sickness went away. Boom. And I was fine.
And my take away from that is that God had to make me sick,
knock me down so He could talk to me; because I was too busy doing the mission.
So, sometimes we need to shut up and listen. I really
believe that. And Rick Warren, a great teacher and
minister, has a big ministry, says 'Twenty minutes a day. Twenty minutes a day.
Quiet time, we all need quiet time.' And I try to
practice that with my children when they were little. And
I brought them to grade school. I tried to drive them to school without saying
a word, everything quiet, so that they would just experience a little quiet
sometimes.
When I go to the college campuses, I
go there to meet young people to talk to them, I can never get over the fact
that almost everybody has ear buds blasting all the time to fill in the
emptiness inside, every nook and cranny; and it really worries me sometimes. I
mean, how can God speak to those people when they're
always filling every space with some kind of noise. I'm
really concerned about that.
Now, another way ... Now, if you're not the person who's sensitive to hear that inner
voice; then that's okay. That's really okay because
it's not ... it's not, again, necessary. There are other ways to get answers to
prayer. And one way is to connect the dots in our
life. I think that a lot of times we don't connect the
dots in our life.
For example, you've
seen these puzzles in the newspaper. You connect the dots and it makes a
picture. Well, I think a lot of times we're missing the boat on this; because
we might pray about something or even do a wish paper or whatever, and think,
'I didn't get any answer to my prayer.' Well, you know, maybe something
happened in our life that we didn't connect the dots
together, we didn't relate the two things together. Maybe it was an answer or a
response.
I mean, I've
seen so many times where people, myself included, will do something good, make
a good condition for example. And then something good
happens. A blessing comes, you know. I don't know what
kind of blessing. It doesn't have to be money. It
could be friendship. It could be a call from a long-lost friend. It could be
all kinds of things, a blessing, something to happen unexpectedly; but we didn't connect the dots.
Or maybe we've done something negative. Maybe we've pushed True Parents and the Principle away. I've seen this happen many times on the part of contacts
that we were working with, ministers or leaders or common folk. And they would push the Principle and True Parents away in
their life. And on so many occasions I saw something
unfortunate happen right away.
Now, I can't
tell them that. It would give a bad feeling if I told them; but I see it. And we don't connect the dots. We don't
realize, you know. There was a person I heard of who went to Korea for a
forty-day workshop; and they were trying to tithe faithfully every month. And while they were gone for forty days, they instructed
their spouse, 'Now you tithe. This is how much money you put in the tithe while
I'm gone.'
Well, the spouse wasn't
really such a religious person, more of a business person. And
when the spouse went to Korea for the forty-day workshop the spouse went
gambling, to have a little fun. And you would know
that the exact amount of money that they didn't put in the tithing box they
lost in the casino. So, I've seen so much of this that
it's really beyond coincidence.
So, you really need to connect the dots in your life and
recognize God when He's working in your life. He's not
punishing us; God is not a punishing God, okay? He's
not. Do not go there. But we do suffer consequences of
our wrong actions. We suffer consequences; but God is not in the punishing
business.
Okay, now another thing you can do
if you're not such a spiritual, mystical, inner voice
kind of person, and this is something we used to due in the fundraising days. And I know many people have done it in the SPF and GPA in
their calling as children of the future; and that is, if you're not the type to
hear the inner voice, the inner prompting, set up an external situation through
which you can get an answer.
Simple example, sometimes a person
would be like this (not so spiritual) and they'd be in
their fundraising area, right? And they say, 'Well, I
don't know. I've got any place here. There's shops, there's apartments, there's motor homes over
here, there's a parking lot. So, I'm going to go work in that shop-to-shop; and
if nobody asks me if I want a drink of water in the next fifteen minutes, I'm
going to stop doing that and go over here to the apartment complex.' You know, something like that, something like that.
I had this happen to me one time
that three people asked me if I wanted a drink of water. I mean, nobody ever
does that. Nobody does that but it was amazing. In fifteen minutes
three people asked me if I wanted a drink of water. And
I said, 'Wow, that's a sign.' It never happens, never since and never before,
never happens. So, I took that as a sign, 'Go this
way. Do what you said you are going to do if that happens.' So,
it works. (I'm not saying to get your wiji board out. I'm just saying
that it works).
So, I want to talk about now a big thing. This is a big thing,
okay? This is not a small thing. I'm
going to black the screen out; because this is an important thing. The most
important thing in prayer is not these things I've
been talking about so far. The most important thing about prayer is SINCERITY.
Any time I didn't feel like I was getting through to
God, some kind of Presence and some kind of response, I stepped back and
questioned my sincerity.
And I found that if I got to another level of sincerity, just
like Bruce Almighty, then I broke through. Then God could receive and I could
feel Presence and I could feel a response when I got more sincere. Now the
question is, 'What does sincerity mean?' Ha ha, that's the question. Here's what
sincerity means that I'm talking about. I'm talking
about rock bottom, bare naked sincerity.
I'm saying that you might be trying to pray but you've never
had a successful prayer life in your life, whatever it is ... You don't really
know if God is out there or not listening. The only way you're
going to get to God is to go there with rock bottom, bare naked sincerity.
'Heavenly Father, Heavenly Parent, I don't even know
if You're out there. I don't even know if You exist. I
don't get ... I don't even know why I'm here. I'm struggling my brains out. I want to believe in True
Parents and the Principle, I want to believe in this church; but there's so many things and this and that. Help me out.' Now don't forget those last three words 'help me out.' You've got to end up with 'help me out.'
You've got to put everything on the table. See, the thing is that God
knows your situation. He knows what's going on in your
mind and heart already; but you need to put it on the table. You need to put it
on the table. He (God) cannot get involved in your portion of human
responsibility until you put it on the table and you ask Him.
Father said, "If Eve or Adam
had gone to God and said, 'Hey, what's with this angel here? He's
saying stuff that seems to contradict what You said. I don't
get it. What's going on with this angel? He's strange. I don't think he's being straight with us or
something.' ...then, Father said that if they would have gone to God like that,
God would have intervened and done something with the angel, to intervene the
Fall."
But they didn't go to God. They didn't
put it on the table. He (God) knew what was going on; BUT they have their
FREEDOM, FREE WILL, FREE CHOICE, THEIR HUMAN PORTION OF RESPONSIBILITY and God
absolutely refuses to mess around with that unless we invite Him in and ask Him
to. That's why restoration has taken millions of
years. It is because God REFUSES to violate your freedom, your free will and
responsibility.
So, you need to put it on the table. But
don't forget the last three words, 'help me out.' God will help you out. I
guarantee it. If you get sincere enough with God, I guarantee it. Cry, yell,
scream, complain ... No, not complain but 'put it out there.' That's what you've got to do. He (God) already knows, He
already knows; but you've got to put it on the altar. You've got to offer it. That's the
most important thing about prayer. If you don't
remember anything else from this talk, don't forget that point.
Okay, now if you're
starting your prayer and you're thinking, 'Okay, what should I pray about?'
Already, you're on the wrong foot. You're
on the wrong foot already. You're already off; because
if you're thinking, 'What should I pray about,' you're not being SINCERE. You're trying to fit somebody else's mold or somebody else's
idea about what you should pray about. 'Well, I guess I should pray about this;
because that's what I was taught.' You're not being
sincere yet.
Now, we have been taught, 'We should
repent. We should pray about this. We should pray about that. I understand
that. And if we follow that advice, we're imitating
(as Father and Mother said, right?), we're imitating a perfect person. Now you
can do that; but you only can do that after you have already opened the door
with you rock-bottom, bare naked sincerity.
And then when you've really poured out your sincere heart, like
Bruce Almighty, then you can go to those things that you should pray about and
explore those kinds of things because it's appropriate, (but only after you've
broken through with your bare-naked sincerity). Don't
start there. Don't start with that stuff. You won't break through. You won't
connect. That's my experience. So, be careful about
that.
Now another point about prayer
(getting to a little lighter subject) is that we need to be careful when we
pray. We've got, ha ha, it's
a cultural problem ... I understand. It's an innocent
mistake. People don't even recognize it. But I hear it all the time when we have a gathering and we
have our members ... See, all of us didn't come from a religious background
where we grew up praying in catechism and church and stuff like that.
Many of our members did not come
from a religious background. Many of them came from a Buddhist background or a Confucian background or an Agnostic
background. God bless every one of them; but as a result of that we don't
notice ... I notice and religious visitors into our community notice that
sometimes we pray to God ... No, we don't pray to God, we pray 'about' God.
This is a really big problem, a really big problem. We
don't notice it.
'Yeah, and ah, I pray that God will
hear our prayers and that God will be with us and that God will take care of
the people that didn't come to church today and that God will do this and that,
Aju.' Well, listen, you just prayed 'about' God. And so, if you have a religious person in your audience at
your church service when you said that prayer or you're praying at the door
when you're blessing people. You pray like that, when you pray like that, the
religious person is going to be thinking, 'Who are they praying to?
'They are praying about God 'to
who'? Uh, I bet they're praying to Moon... They're praying to ... I don't know. Who
are they praying to about God? Heh, heh, you may think it's
a small thing; but I guarantee you, if they're a religious person, you may not
see them again. I mean, it's so strange and it's so
offensive and we do it all the time. Be careful.
You're praying to God. You're
communicating with God, 'Heavenly Father. please take
care of the people who didn't come to church today. Please come into our hearts
and bless the people who are visiting us today and do this and do that and and and ... ' You're praying to
God. don't ... It looks like a small, little thing but it can just ... put up a
big wall to people who care about this sort of thing, any religious person is
going to be out the door. 'Who are they praying to?' Heh, heh, don't do that.
Okay, another thing that we need to
... I'm just going to tell you this. Now, don't pick a fight with your leaders or anybody about this;
because it's not important (or it's not that important). But
because Father said it, I want to convey it to you; because whatever Father
said is important. So, there was a leaders meeting one
time where Father asked one of the leaders to pray. And
the leader prayed and he said all of his prayer and he got all done and he
said, 'And I pray in the name of so and so and so and so, a Central Blessed
family, Aju.'
And Father kindly and softly and gently said, 'Ah, no. That's
not correct.' He explained that there's a difference between
the Central Blessed Family and the Blessed Central Family. And
Father said, 'My Family is the Central Blessed Family That's like a central
figure. They can pray that way; but we are not the Central Blessed Family. We're Blessed Central Family. ' It
made a difference for Him enough to make the comment, so I'm passing it along
to you.
Do not pick a fight over it. Do not
criticize your leader. Do not make trouble. I'm just
trying to help by conveying something that Father conveyed to us. I think
everything that Father conveyed is important.
Sometimes we also talk to our
ancestors. Now, this is common in the Buddhist culture or in Japan or other
cultures, but pretty strange in Western countries. In
fact, most Christian people would think it's evil. So,
please be careful with that. I mean, it's perfectly fine for us to be doing
that; but be careful if you're doing that in public because, you know ... (not
to make a stumbling block for others in a public setting).
We should communicate with our
ancestors. Dae Mo Nim told us that, our absolute good ancestors,
we need to tell them every day what to do, give them their instructions.
They won't do anything if we don't tell them what to
do. 'Go help this person. Go help my daughter or my son,' or whatever. 'Bring
people to me. I'm going to be at the campus to meet people.'
So, tell your ancestors what to do;
but if you're praying in public, that's really
strange. So, that's related to group prayer. I might
as well talk about group prayer for a moment. You know, group prayer should be
real prayer. It's not an activity, some kind of
ritualistic thing, where you just rattle through something because you're in
public and praying for a whole group of people over a lunch at this banquet.
You know, even if it's
a short prayer, it can be rock solid sincere from your heart. Make it real and
sincere. Don't trivialize prayer. Prayer is serious. I'm communing with God here. Let's
join together and pray. Don't say, 'Let's offer a
little prayer.' It sounds like you want a little blessing. It's
trivializing ... really sincere from you heart; but it doesn't have to be long.
'Heavenly Father, thank you so much
for everybody who came here today. I really mean it. And
let's really enjoy Your Love with each other as we share this meal. Amen.'
Whatever it is you can make it really sincere and
short.
In Korea
one elder was saying about prayer and was saying that there was a member in the
Cheong Pyeong area, which is a very rural,
agricultural farming area. So, he asked one of these
people to come up and offer prayer in the church service and, ha ha, he went on and on and on ... and on about everything
and talking about his pigs and his cows... And so, it
became funny. So, this elder Korean leader said, 'Please make your prayer
appropriate, short, but sincere.' That's the message.
Be careful with that.
Um, prayer is a condition, right? It's a good condition, a vertical condition between you and
God. Prayer is a vertical condition. Now, why do we even need to make
conditions at all? Why bother. Why do we need to pray? God knows. Why do I need
to bother praying and stuff like that?
Well, I want to
really get to this big point. And Rev. Kevin
McCarthy years ago wrote a book called 'The Blood-Stained Voice'. And in that book he talked about conditions, why we need to
do them. And he explained it this way, 'You know, we like to think of God as
this great big, warm and compassionate teddy bear and all He wants to do is
love us all the time. That's what we want to believe,
right? Well, He is! That really is the kind of God God
is. He has a one-track Mind. He wants to love us all the time. He wants to love
us and bless us all the time. And He's like Santa
Claus. He's got this big bag of love and blessing,
carrying it around all dusty ... He wants to give us love and blessings all the
time. He really does.
But especially because of the Fall, the situation has emerged
whereby we are in a conditional relationship between God and ourselves and the
dark side. And here's what happened: If God likes your pretty
face and just wants to bless and love you and He gives you some love and
blessing from out of His bag He's carrying around for millions of years, but
you didn't make any kind of step forward to kind of free His Hand or give Him
an excuse to give you that love and blessing ... any little thing, a prayer, a
sincere prayer or maybe it's your donation, your tithing in church or maybe you
did a little fast, you fasted breakfast for a week because of some concern, you
helped a friend, you went out of your way and you offered it up.
Whatever it is, you do your Hoon Dok Hae
reading. Then God gives you your love and blessings and the dark side can't say a thing about it because God is justified. But if
God gives you the same amount of love and blessings and you didn't do anything,
nothing, just gobble your food down every time you eat and you just never ...
you have nothing to do with God in your life, then if God gives you His love
and blessings, the dark side will say, 'Hey, did you see that? God gave that person
His love and blessing. They didn't make any offering.
They didn't
make any good condition. Well, well, I'm just going to
wreck their life. I'm not going to wait for any bad
condition either. God didn't wait for any good
condition. So, the result of all this is this: GOD WAITS. He waits. He waits
for any kind of condition.
WHY DO WE NEED TO OFFER CONDITIONS
God waits for any kind of good
condition from you, some kind of offering that He can use to justify giving His
love and Blessing (that the enemy who has a claim on us cannot mess with that).
He (God) only wants to love you and bless you.
I was giving this as part of a
lecture here in the Denver, Colorado church community; and this one sister
walked in the room. She never came to any one of my lectures; but she wanted to
come and see one of her friends who was in the lecture audience. She knew what
time the break was. So, she came in just before the
break and sat in the corner of the room waiting for the break to happen so she
could talk to her friend. And this is the only thing
she heard was this explanation I just gave you.
She opened her purse, took out her
checkbook and wrote her first tithing check. She's
been a faithful sister ever since. She realized, 'Oh, there's a reason to do
this. It's not just about money. It's
not about money. God wants to love me and bless me. Oh, I need to take a step
toward Him. I get it.' It's a very important thing to
get. Don't miss it.
Another thing to think about in
prayer is that we are told that our prayer should be a report, a reporting
prayer, right? Well, be careful with that. That doesn't mean it's like a business report, like a balance
sheet, or something like that. Report, 'Heavenly Father, I'm having a good
day.' or 'I've had a hard day. You know what happened today in my life, so and
so and this and that and things don't seem to be going
the way we'd like ... ' You know, 'report'. Put it on the table.
Now let me give you a little trick
question, 'Does prayer change things? That's a trick
question. My answer is 'No.' For the sake of those people who think that
there's some kind of energy that comes out of my hands and my eyes and my
spirit and moves things across the universe and makes things happen, uh, that's
not my experience. Sorry.
I think that indirectly prayer makes
things happen; but what makes things happen is God's and spirit world's
response to your prayer. That's what I'm trying to
say. That makes things happen. You pray. You do a sincere wish paper, whatever
it is you're doing. You're putting a little money on
your prayer, add a little value to it; in other words, you're praying
sincerely, you're really putting your sincere guts into it.and
it's the response from God, from angels, from your ancestors, IT'S THE RESPONSE
THAT MAKES SOMETHING HAPPEN.
Somebody is responding to you. Some
body is responding to you. And we should be grateful
to them. We should appreciate them, whoever they are, protecting you, guiding
you, helping you. We need to appreciate those people.. Some day we are going to be those people, helping,
protecting, guiding, our great grandchildren.
Appreciate them. They're representing God. They're delivering messages from God. They're
representing God to you. APPRECIATE THEM.
Another thing that's
very, very important about prayer and offerings, conditions (which prayer is
one) is something that Jesus said. It's a really big
point. I wish this was on a banner over the altar of
every church in America. If we lived up to this one little banner, our culture
would be very different. So, what Jesus said was this:
JESUS SAID: "So if you are
offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has
something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be
reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift." MATTHEW 5:
23 - 4
Very important point, setting the
priorities here. This is showing very clearly that God wants to live in us AND
AMONG US. So, he's saying, 'You want to come to the altar and
make a vertical gift, a vertical offering at the altar, (could be your prayer,
could be your fasting, could be your tithing, could be whatever it is, and you
might wonder why more blessings and more of God's, you know, God's response
doesn't come to America, to me, to my family. You might wonder why you don't see more response.
You know, when 911 happened and
those towers fell down, I saw so many people waving little flags and saying,
'God bless America. God bless America.' And I thought
to myself, 'What in the world for?' Are we providing an environment for God to
bless us? Look at our society. So many things are unholy, you know.
It doesn't mean that God doesn't love us; but what is Jesus saying, 'You want to make an offering to God and then you notice that your brother has something against you...' Everybody has somebody like that. We all have somebody in our life that we need to reconcile with. It might be my spouse, it might be my son or daughter, it might be the pastor, it might be somebody in my church, it might be somebody at work. We've all got somebody (we need to be reconciled with). It might be my parents. We've all got somebody. And what Jesus is saying is, 'You've all got somebody to reconcile with and then give your gift at the altar. You're not ready. You're not in position to make an offering until you've reconciled with your brother.' This is a big one, really big. Take it sincerely to ponder and think about. Take stock in your life. Who do you have to reconcile with.
Also, another thing about prayer is, you know, prayer doesn't
have to be kneeling down on the floor and doing kyeong
bays... I mean, God wants to live in us and among us. I can't
say it enough times. We should be communing with God 24/7. It shouldn't have to be some formal thing where you're kneeling
down on the floor and getting your knees all bruised. That's
... that's...That' alright. It's alright to do some of that; but you can
communicate with God just as well standing ... walking ...
Some of my best prayers were
standing on the interstate overpass watching the traffic go underneath my feet.
You know, there was a spiritual lady in our church years ago, decades ago
before Dae Mo Nim; and she,
Mrs. Che, or Lady Dr. Kim was it ... Anyway, she said
to me one time (I met her face-to-face only one time), the only thing she said
to me was, 'Don't pray with your eyes shut.' And I
said, 'Yes, thank you so much.'
And I thought about it, her direction afterwards, her
suggestion, and I know myself that that's exactly right. When I ... my mind is
a very creative, wandering mind. If I shut my eyes, immediately my thoughts
start to wander; and I can easily fall asleep and get offtrack.
It helped me a lot, personally, to pray with my eyes open, not shut. Now that's me, may not be you, may not be somebody else; but,
you know, I understand what she's saying.
Yeah, so, informal prayer is at
least as effective as formal prayer. It doesn't have
to be yelling and screaming and shouting all the time, maybe sometimes but not
all the time.
And another thing, when I was doing
mission in a rural, remote state (U.S. state) and I was transferring back to
another state from that one, I thought, 'You know, if I would have been more
serious about what I was there to do, I would have found more opportunity.
Doors would have opened for me. I was just reflecting on myself.
And then I reflected about something that I've heard a lot around
the Christian community that I ... You know, I was a strong Christian,
traditional Christian when I joined the church; and I'm still a Christian. And
I said (to myself), 'Many of my traditional brothers and sisters that are
Christian say "What would Jesus do?." They
have a saying.
Here it is (caption W.W.J.D.) What
would Jesus do? 'W.W.J.D.' What would Jesus do? And they find a lot of inspiration in that; and I thought to
myself, 'Hey, what about me?' So, I thought I'd try it
out. So, I tried it out. I said, 'What would Father do
if He were in my situation?' (caption: W.W.F.D.) What
would He do? What would Mother do in my situation, whatever I'm
trying to accomplish here, whether it's my family, my mission? What would
Father do? What would Mother do?
And my experience with this just blew my mind. It's like the whole roof just blew off; and I was
immediately put in a situation in my mind, my spirit where I was thinking about
... where ideas were coming to me way beyond what I was thinking.
I was thinking way down here, you
know, little stuff; and, when I started thinking, 'What would Father do if He
were in my situation, if He were in my shoes?' immediately I started thinking,
'Whah, He'd be working on this level over here.' And I thought, 'Wow! Why didn't I start doing this before. It's really effective and helpful.' Try it out,
'What would Father do, what would Mother do in my
situation, in my shoes.'
Another
thing about prayer is you know, sometimes when you sit down, you go somewhere,
maybe your favorite spot and you want to pray, but all this stuff comes to your
mind, you know ... Maybe you're in Cheong Pyeong and
go to the prayer hall, and the prayer hall is at the time to pray but you
think, 'Oh, I've got school work, my job, my family and this and that, my kids,
and the time just passes and you just so ... (You really need to do that
meditating, you know?) But anyway, somebody asked Father one time, 'What do we do
with all these thoughts that just keep coming to us and we just can't focus in
our prayer?'
I just want you to know that Father
is very practical, spiritual man. His answer was, 'Just let it go.' Let it go.
In other words, you can't shut that stuff off. You can't just control your mind and heart and spirit that way.
You just have to let it go, let it flow, until it gets
all done. And then when it's all done and it's all
out, then you can pray. You've just got to let it go.
Very good. I love it.
Also, sometimes we need a show-down prayer. Sometimes your back
gets up against a wall and sometimes you need to just go out and find a place
where you're by yourself, nobody around and just shout it out, yell it out, get
your mind out focused, whatever it takes. You don't
always have to pray like that. It's very seldom for
me, but it's happened. There's been times when I was
really back against the wall and I just needed to yell out to God. It's good.
Sometimes you need to do that. Don't be afraid of doing that. Sometimes you need a show-down prayer (and I'll tell you about one ... heh, heh
...) but a few more points. You need to hunger for God in your life like a baby
hungers for its mother's milk. You need to ... It cann't
be some kind of duty or some kind of thing you 'should' do, okay? Prayer is not
something you 'should' do.
Heh, heh, I mean, if it's something I 'should' do and I guess I should pray, huh,
good luck. I don't have much hope that you're going to
break through. It has to be something that comes from inside. You've got to sincerely want it. You've
got to want to connect with God. You've got to
want to.
Do you remember 'What Dreams May
Come,' the movie. I can never forget this scene in
'What Dreams May Come'. And you know, Robin Williams
is there in the spirit world; and he doesn't know that that man is his son,
right? And he says to him, 'When am I going to see my
kids?' Remember that? What does his son say back to
him? 'You will when you want to.'
I can never forget that. Prayer is
like that. You can't fake it. You can't
do it because you should. When you want to connect to God, you will. You've got to want it, not a duty; and there's no guilt
acceptable in our spiritual life, okay? If you have any situation in your life
where you feel guilty, get rid of it. God has nothing to do with that. That's
Satan's tool, okay?That's
the dark side. God is not in the guilt business, okay?
No matter what you learned from your religious upbringing, God is not in the
guilt business. So, if you've got a guilty conscience
about something, get rid of it. You can repent. You can feel sorry but do not
go to the point of feeling guilty; because that means 'I'm no good.' No. We
never go there.
Also, this is a big shocker, maybe for you also. It was for me
because I grew up in a church family. Father said one day, He said, 'Do not ask
God to forgive you all the time.' And I was so
shocked. I said, 'What?' I mean, that's what I learned
as a child. You go in to see the priest and confess your sins and ask for
forgiveness.
Father said, 'No. Don't
ask God to forgive you all the time. Do you know what you're doing when you ask
God to forgive you?' My ears where completely up. What in the world is Father saying to us now? 'Do not ask God to forgive
you because when you ask God to forgive you what you're doing really is your telling God, "I made a mistake, You take
responsibility for it." And I thought, 'Holy
smokes! I never realized. That's correct. I'm saying to God, 'You take responsibility for it. No. No.
No. That's not a mature son and daughter's attitude.' I was shocked.
So, later I thought, 'Well, how
should we pray then?' And here's what I came to, I
realized ... Try it out. It's really powerful. It
really works. You repent, right? 'I'm sorry I'm not like this, I didn't do
that, I did this, I shouldn't do this, I did that, whatever you're repenting
about is fine. 'I'm sorry. I'm so sorry, even in tears
... that's all the same. We should really be sincere in our repenting, right? I'm not ... I don't care about the people across the street.
I don't really sincerely care about the providence. I don't care about nothing. Help me out. I repent. I'm so sorry. Please help me out.'
But when you get done repenting, instead of saying, 'Forgive
me,' we say, 'Give me an opportunity to restore my mistake. Give me an
opportunity to restore my mistake.' That's a mature
son or daughter's attitude. It's huge. It's such a huge difference. Try it out. It really does make
a big difference. It's powerful. It's
really a big deal. 'Help GIVE ME AN OPPORTUNITY TO RESTORE MY MISTAKE' INSTEAD
OF 'FORGIVE ME.' Don't say that, I mean not so much,
maybe sometimes is okay. You need to be forgiven.
Now, WHAT IS SIN? This is a big
problem in our church. I don't know ... We haven't
learned from the Catholics. They got it. We didn't. Some how or another we seem to think that sin is the stuff
we did that we shouldn't do. Well, that's
part of it. But, you know, you go into the prayer room
at Cheong Pyeong and you're going to sit down and
pray and you think, 'Well, "Heavenly Father, I want to repent (if you
really sincerely want to repent) and you think, 'Well, I didn't fall today. I didn't kill anybody today. I didn't
steal anything today, aah, I guess I'm okay. Aju.' Heh, heh, heh, heh, Oh, we're
so out to lunch. Most of our sins are not sins of commission.
You know there are two kinds of sins
and we've never been talking about (I don't know why)
we've never been talking about sins of ... anything but sins of omission. You
know, most of our young people are not going out sinning, doing bad things.
They live a pretty good life.
The problem we have is sins of
omission. That's where we need to reflect. That's where we need to repent. It's
what I'm not. It's what I don't feel. It's what I don't care about. It's
what I don't do. You know, when I really sincerely
pray in repentance, do you know what I pray about? I say, 'Heavenly Father, I'm not the husband my wife has needed. I'm
not the father my son and daughter have needed. And I
haven't been the kind of son that You and True Parents needed. That's my heartfelt repentance.
Do I really care about those people
across the street? Do I really care about the Providence? Really? Does my life
reflect that? Ohh, man, don't
lie to me. I think it's a big problem. That's where our problems lie, our sins of omission, not so
much commission, sometimes ...but we need to learn about this stuff.
(caption:
And, don't forget the grease ... )
We need to get the grease going in
our prayer. And what is the grease? The grease is
sincerity, gratitude and love, sincerity, gratitude and love ... GRATITUDE,
LOVE, that's how you grease your prayer. Make them
really powerful, penetrating, grabing God's Heart.
Don't be complaining in your prayer. Be careful about that. I
mean, you might start that way; but kinda
get out of that. You're going to get a lot better
response if you are full of gratitude and love. There really
always is a silver lining in every cloud. Look for it. There's no need to complain.
There's a reason for everything. Look for it. Find it. Take
responsibility for it. If you take responsibility for it, something you're complaining about then you're not complaining. But if you're just throwing stuff in God's Face and not
taking responsibility for it, maybe that's complaining. Don't
be doing that.
The last few things I want to talk
about is to make a prayer list. Now, this prayer list is not ... Take a piece
of paper or a little notebook or your cell phone, your tablet, whatever you make
lists on and start a list. Now, this list is not stuff you should pray about. No! It is not things that you
should pray about. It's things that you want to
pray about, things that are important to you, things that you want to pray
about, if you remember when you get around the praying.
You might want to pray for Aunt Mary
over there. 'Oh, my aunt, she's sick and I want to remember to pray for her
situation. And my sister. I want to pray for her when
I get around to praying. And my mother, she needs my
prayers. I really want to remember her...'
And you start making this list. One or two things comes to mind
and after a month or so, you're going to have a list
of things that you decided that you want to remember to pray about. Make that list.
It's always under construction, that list.
And after you've got that list, a
month or two down the road and nobody's home, you're alone, turn off the TV,
the cell phone, you go out to sit on the front porch or the chair or the back
yard, wherever you go to pray, maybe ten o'clock at night when everything's
getting quiet, pull out your little list.
And you start praying about the things that you wanted to
remember to pray about. And I guarantee you that when
the sun starts coming up and you realize that, 'My God, I've been praying all
night and I'm still not done. These things are important to me.' From then on your prayer life will be completely different.
It's good to do that sometimes, once in a while. It's not hard. You'll wonder how,
how could I pray in a few minutes like I used to pray. I've
been praying all night but I didn't have enough time to finish. Then God will
really be embracing you and hugging you; because, that's
what He has. He has a lot on His Heart. And you'll
finally realize that there's a lot of good stuff in your heart too.
One more thing ... two more things.
Make a date with God. Sometimes, you need to make a date with God. This is my
follow-up to that showdown thing we were talking about earlier. I'll give you an example of my make-a-date-with-God thing.
I was at UTS years and years ago;
and we had to do so many things at UTS. It wasn't just
academics and studies and papers. We were building park benches
and digging the lake behind the campus and doing all kinds of stuff. You
know, creating plays and Father came to visit. And
there were so many things to do, couldn't do them all.
And I had this big term paper due on Monday. And
I hadn't done anything on it. And it was Saturday. And it was due Monday. I take my studies seriously but I had
this ten-page paper that was due and I hadn't done
anything on it yet. We didn't have the internet. We didn't have computers. We didn't
have wiki. We didn't have Wikipedia. We didn't have anything. We had books and paper notebooks and
pens.
So, I made a date with God. This is the way
I prayed, I said, 'Heavenly Father, look I have to do this term paper. It's due Monday; and I haven't done anything. I need to meet
You in the library tomorrow morning after Pledge
Service at 5:30. You better be there.' That was my prayer just like that, 'You
better be there in the library at 5:30. I'm going to meet You
there; because I need Your help.' I had the most unbelievable experience in my
life.
It was unbelievable. I was the only
person in the library at 5:30 in the morning. I turned the lights on. I sat
down at the table and opened my paper and took out my
pen; and all this stuff started flowing through my brain and my spirit mind. I
just couldn't believe it. I could hardly write fast
enough to keep up and take down all these ideas that
just flooded through my mind.
Wow! Unbelievable, memorable
experience. I don't know if God directly, angelically,
through the ancestors, but anyway it happened. God bless them all whoever
helped me. Wow.
And my final point is this. It's a big
one. It's a big one. Prayer is as important and
valuable to God as it is to you. If it's not important
and valueable to you, then it's not going to be
important and valueable to God. I'll
give you an example.
Back in the day. I was on MFT or
whatever and we were on a fundraising team somewhere. I think it was Chicago.
Some other people remember this as well. I met some other people who remember
this same thing as well. Anyway, we were out blitzing. It was Saturday night
and we were out till 1 or 2 in the morning. And we were tired and we were pushing ourselves to make our
big goals. And we came home and all we could think
about was emptying our pockets, counting up, putting the money in the bag and
let's hurry up and have our closing prayer and go to bed. That's
all we were thinking.
So, we all pulled our money out, counted it up and put it in
the bag, marked down our result and let's have our closing prayer. We had our
closing prayer and we were dashing off to our sleeping bags, right? And I noticed that in the corner of the room was this sweet
Japanese sister standing at the ironing board. And I
thought, 'What? What is she doing?'
So, I went over there and I said, 'What are you doing?' She
was ironing every dollar bill she collected that day. She was ironing the
money. She was ironing every bill she collected that day. I said, 'What are you
doing?' She said, 'This is my offering'. I can never forget that. This is her
offering. She's ironing the money. It's
that special to her. I can never forget that.
Of course, she made a lot of money
and everything; but because she made the offering really
special then God could also feel, 'This is really special. Because it's
special to her, it's special to Me.' If it didn't mean
anything to me, it doesn't mean anything to God either. It really was such a
shocking experience that I can never forget.
It reminds me of Cheong Pyeong, you know? People could
think, Western people could think. Well, why did she put that Tree of Blessing
way up there at the top of the mountain? Why didn't you put it down here by the
store, by the prayer hall, where it's convenient? Heh,
heh, heh, you know. She explained to us, and Buddhists understand this. There
was a certain number of steps on the stairway up to that Tree of Blessing, a
certain incline to the road.
It all has a purpose that makes it
special. She taught us how to go to the prayer room to pray, if you remember
this. She said, 'When you approach the prayer hall, before you go into the
building, you stop in front of the building and you bow. Then you go inside the
glass door as you leave your shoes and you go to the sliding wooden door and
you bow. Then you walk into the prayer hall and find your spot to pray and you
bow. You kneel down and you pray and you get up and
you bow. And you take three steps backward and you
bow. And you go out the sliding door and you bow. And you put your shoes on and as you go out of the building
you bow. What in the world? Ha ha ha.
I mean, I grew up as a Catholic boy
and I understand about all that; but how many times do you have to bow? But that's Western thinking. That's
not the point. The point is that we're making it
special. Your prayer is as special as you make it. Your offering is as special
as you make it. If it's just a ritual to you, just
something you mumbo jumbo and you do it because people expect you to do it,
don't expect a response. God doesn't care anything
much about it either. God couldn't care less about it
either, if it doesn't mean anything to you.
But if you're really aching inside or you're really super happy
and you really want to reach out to God, your Father and Mother in the spirit
world and you want to connect to Them, to Him, He's there and you will
experience something. That's my experience.
That's my tips on prayer. I hope there's
something in there that can help you in your prayer life. So,
I think it's only appropriate that we finish this presentation with a prayer.
"Our loving Heavenly Father,
thank You so much. You've
given us the technology that we can do this kind of thing. We didn't have it when I was a boy. Thank you so much. Jesus didn't even have a pencil, didn't even have a microphone.
How much You love us. How much You
are trying to reach us. How much You're trying to
facilitate this and build this bridge.
Thank you. I pray that those who are
listening to this presentation who can benefit from it will take it deeply into
their hearts and they will digest it and they will hold onto it and they will
try it and they will find You. Father, show yourself
to them who really sincerely are aching for You,
please.
Father, thank You so much for Your
Love. Thank You so much for being there in my personal
life. Please do that for my family, my descendants and all the people who want
to know You. Thank You, Thank You, Lord We pray with a
grateful heart in all of our family names. Aju.
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